As a nutrition coach, I often hear things like:
- “I just can’t accept my body at this size.”
- “I need to lose weight so that I can feel more confident.”
- “I will [start dating, apply for that new job, try that new class, etc.] after I reach my goal weight.”
The trouble with these statements and the fantasy of how amazing life will be at a smaller size is that they require us to put our life on hold, they perpetuate the weight bias in our culture, and they support the belief that we can shame our bodies into changing.
When people say they want to lose weight, they often mean I want to be respected. I want to be loved. I want to be seen. I want liberation from fear and self-loathing. Weight-loss culture will never give us those things because it is founded on fear/hate-based systems like sexism, racism, classism and ableism. — Virgie Tovar, Fat activist